What is the definition of a conversation?
‘Two or more people talking informally together, sharing news, knowledge and experiences’
Often you will enter into conversations where multiple people are sharing stories but you know that the other people involved are not interested in what you have to say, but are simply waiting to say their piece.
Often we know everything about certain people who know nothing about us due to the fact that they have never asked and have only ever spoken about themselves.
We have all witnessed conversational interactions in an office environment between 3 or 4 people on a Monday morning that was full of ‘I’ Specialists.
‘I went to the gym yesterday’
‘I didn’t go yesterday but I did go Saturday’
‘I couldn’t be bothered with the Gym’
‘I went once but didn’t like it’
‘I love it’
‘I don’t, it’s a waste of time’
‘I like the classes’
‘I like the pool’
I,I,I,I,I,I,I,I,I,…………..
Sometimes it’s nice to really listen and expand on someone else’s comments without turning the focus onto yourself.
Imagine how you would make someone feel just by being interested in what they have to say.
‘I went to the gym yesterday’
‘Really, how did you get on? Were there any hot guys there? So that’s why you look so good!’
Life is about competition and in one way or another we are all competing for attention.
Try going a whole day without saying ‘I’.
Try expanding on other people’s comments without turning it around to being about yourself.
Try listening, really listening.
Try making people feel good about themselves.
People feel good when you show interest in them.
JEEBUS 